Monday, December 20, 2010

Wake me up when September ends

I am remembering my brother today as seven years have gone by since he passed away.  I still remember that day, that phone call and then the days that followed.  To lose my brother was beyond words, it was life changing and so unbelievably sad.  It left me an only child and I miss him terribly.  For my parents to lose their child was unimaginable, catastrophic, earth shattering, debilitating.  It left them perpetually sad and nearly unable to be happy ever again.  Over the years they have tried hard to be strong fighting tooth and nail to start each and every day.  They smiled if you met them in the store, they went to church, they tried hard to cope with this horrible loss.  But their hearts were shattered.  Some of you out there know that pain, that loss, the struggle of getting out of bed everyday...and some of you don't.  I encourage you to not be afraid to talk about loved ones lost.  Don't be afraid to tell someone you are thinking of them and that you are sorry.  Sometimes it's nice to remember and to have that person acknowledged.  These things happen to us all eventually and a kind word or smile can make someones day.  Let them know they aren't alone.  You won't say the wrong thing, just start by saying "hi, you've been on my mind" and the rest will just follow.

"here comes the rain again

 falling from the stars

drenched in my pain again

becoming who we are

as my memory rests

but never forgets what I lost

wake me up when September ends"

~Green Day


Anonymous said...

That was a beautiful tribute Annette, wow! I loved it my love, you really touched my heart. Love Mom

Just Bits and Pieces said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.....I know the feeling of losing my Dad way too early and I still feel it (almost 13 years later). Beautiful post!

Renee said...

I miss him dearly too and love the picture you have posted! ((HUGS))

Anonymous said...

Great post Annette..Thinking of you today..Wish I could have met him. He is definitely looking down being very proud of all your accomplishments you have tammy

Anonymous said...

I remember that day so well too Annette!! It was a terrible day etched in my memory... but thank God I can remember Chad now with a smile! He left a wonderful memory that will never die. I remember his shy smile and his eagerness to help anyone who needed it. He was so talented and handsome and we all loved him dearly. It's a beautiful tribute you've written here and I am thinking of you all today as you remember this sad anniversary. Take care, Love A.Arlene